Success Is Not Selfishness

We live in an age of entitlement and self-absorption. Many are raised to believe that the world revolves around them – often initiated by well-meaning parents trying to foster strong ego and high self-esteem. These folks receive praise and unconditional support of their behavior even when applause has not been earned, and this can result in those who feel entitled to get whatever they want and to simply take it when it seems slow in coming.

Like many, you may be shocked when you observe this behavior from those “who didn’t come from a bad home”. Though there may be different reasons for their behavior, there’s little difference in the selfish behavior itself.

And, because bad behavior is more likely to “go viral” these days and to receive unprecedented attention, it’s easy for you to become numb to it and to view it as acceptable. But it isn’t. Remember this especially when “successful” people behave badly. Their wealth and social status often buys them a pass, causing their rudeness and incivility to be ignored or downplayed. It even may be emulated and touted as “style” in our community. Reject this.

On the contrary, success means being aware of, sensitive to, and concerned about the feelings of others.


Dr. Webster is a clinical psychologist consultant and author of Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There , The Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You!, and Success! Ezine to help you get ahead in life. She is AASF’s Founder and President/CEO.