Successful people always seek for positive attributes in themselves as they know the significance of developing growth and trust. However, feeling the need to critique someone constructively and even in a manner that is not serving another constructively is demonstrating a lack of trust, disallowing yourself to flow with the creative power and stalling progress along the way. To stop criticism in constructive ways is to allow room for growth and improvement. If you feel the need to take the negative criticisms to heart and “correct” them in your mind, this will serve to build your image and give you an opportunity to work on the things that are lacking in your performance. Rather than dwell on the criticism, find the opportunity to use the critique positively by taking what was unappealing about your performance and using it to grow.
Another habit of successful people that can be useful for your personal growth is the ability to take on challenges. Failure, as we all come to learn, is an integral part of life. Yet, you can’t let failure dictate how you live your life. For many, the act of reliving failure, whether in business or personal life, allows them to look at their past performances and gauge their performance, especially where there may have been obstacles to success. Those who are successful at picking themselves up and moving forward learn to pick themselves up and proceed. They learn from their failures and continue to build upon the positive attributes that they built in the past.
The difference between unsuccessful people and successful people is that successful people do not allow failure to stand in their way of achieving their goals. They also take failure in stride, understanding that the learning process will be necessary for continued success. Unsuccessful people, on the other hand, tend to either give up too soon or to try to relive their failures repeatedly. Trying to relive a failed attempt can lead to a sense of failure and even burn a hole in your pocketbook. By allowing failure to hold you back from further success, unsuccessful people burn themselves out rather than move on to achieve more.
One of the most important attributes of successful people is their optimism. In addition to having a positive mental attitude, they also possess the discipline to persist and push forward regardless of what obstacles may come their way along the road to success. They know how to persevere and don’t give up. Unfortunately, there are many who live in the shadow of failure and wish that something could just “click” right now. Although things may not be going your way just yet, successful people know that they must continue to move onward because failure to do so would only lead to another inevitable defeat.
Failure, whether it’s in business or in personal life, can be a part of life. If handled properly, it can be a positive stepping stone to greater success. Just like the saying goes, “failure is learning.” An unsuccessful person, or even highly successful person, must first overcome the setback, before building upon it to achieve his or her goals. In order to succeed, an unsuccessful person must re-learn the valuable lesson he or she learned from that experience; learn from the experience and use it to better prepare him or her for future endeavors.
The secret of successful people is not really much of a secret at all. The secret is to change your mindset to one of optimism and to allow setbacks, if any, to be the learning experiences they are. Although setbacks can be a very scary thing, they can also be the building block toward greater success. In the words of the motivational speaker and author Tony Robbins: “What’s the worst that can happen? The worst can happen – OR IT CAN LEAD YOU TO THE GREATEST ACCESSibilities YOU’VE EVER KNOWLEDGE ONLY BECAUSE YOU CHOSE TO MITCH UP!”